5 ways to heal past pain and move on
You can run, you can bury it, you can pretend it doesn’t hurt.
But pain doesn’t disappear—it waits. It settles in the shadows, silently influencing your choices, your relationships, and the way you see the world.
Maybe you can’t fel it exactly, maybe the business, and coping stratergies have kept it at bay.
Although avoiding pain gives you temporary relief, it doesn’t make it go away and eventually, you have to face it. If we don’t, we will forever carry that burden and it will forever define our lives.
What if, instead of running from it, you chose to face it—and set yourself free?
Avoiding pain feels like a relief—until it isn’t. No matter how far you run, your past finds ways to catch up. It shows up in your relationships, your fears, and your patterns. Healing isn’t about ignoring the past—it’s about transforming it.
There comes a time when the only way forward is to move forward. But to look forward, you must close the door on the past and allow for a new beginning. For new opportunities.
When you truly learn to heal your past, it will begin to fade. Time does heal your wounds, but sometimes you need to work through the pain to come out the other side.
And as scary and hard as that may seem, the rewards on the other side are so vast that the journey is worth the reward.
Releasing pain, anger, hurt, betrayal, and abuse is a process that is truly liberating and transformational.
Letting it all go, leaving it all in the past, will change your life in ways that you had never imagined.
The Power of Releasing Emotional Pain
I’m a big believer in letting go of your past. Letting go of things that are holding you back from happiness, joy and peace.
Releasing pain, anger, hurt, betrayal, and abuse is deeply liberating. When you let go of the heavy emotional baggage, your life begins to shift in ways you never imagined.
We are designed to heal. To grow and to evolve.
Holding onto pain doesn’t help. Your past pain gives you great strength and wisdom and makes you who you are, but you are not meant to be bound to it. You are meant to learn from it, grow from it and let it go.
When you hold onto your pain, you suffer again and again.
All the negative emotions hold you down, both energetically and emotionally, and they keep you from moving forward. You go around in circles and get lost in it all, and it seems like you are never going to be free again.
You get stuck, and it gets really hard to move on.
You grip to the past, to the stories, and hold onto them because they are your stories, your wounds and they make you who you are.
I know—letting go can feel terrifying.
Even pain becomes familiar, and the idea of releasing it might leave you wondering… Who am I without it?
But here’s the truth: You are so much more than your pain.
They have become part of you, and you can’t imagine life without them. You pretend it’s all OK. You busy yourself with other things, so you do not have to feel and hopefully make it all go away.
But it never truly does.
Open your heart and let it out
But when you acknowledge your pain and let it go, you become the lotus that rises out of the muddy waters. A beautiful example of resilience and strength.
It can be hard to pull yourself out of the mud, to allow yourself to regain your beauty and happiness.
But it can be done. I know because I have done it.
I have released the deepest pain and have become free. Free from the pain that haunted me for many years, pain that I thought I would carry with me always.
But that pain is no longer part of my life. And this is how I did it.
Energy Healing
Ignite Your Spirit Energy Healing focuses on your energy body, your chakras, your thoughts and your beliefs.
You connect with your Soul, your guides and your Inner Child.
This allows you to go deep within your subconscious and heal in places where you hold the heaviest of all pain.
But it doesn’t mean reliving the experience. It isn’t necessary. You just release the pain and suffering that it is attached to. And you truly let it go!
When you release the pain, you release the darkness and the heaviness. You break free of the energies that hold you to the past. It allows you to release pain in a way that I have not experienced in any other modality.
Thoughts and vibrations that held you back no longer have a hold on you, and you are free.
Free to be happy.
Free to love.
Free to be.
Like all forms of therapy and healing, it is not a quick fix. It’s like peeling an onion, taking away the layers until you get to the core or the last remaining remnants.
But once you have, the energy and heaviness are no longer there. You can think about the person, event or situation, and it no longer has any power over you.
And that is true empowerment!
Forgiveness
If there ever was a “magic bullet” this would be it.
This is a tough one, but when you are truly able to forgive, you will set yourself free.
Shame, blame, anger, and resentment are all very low-vibrational energies, and when we hold onto them, we anchor ourselves to these states.
When you hold onto resentment and continue to blame and shame the people who have hurt you, you end up hurting yourself.
We need to let it go.
Forgiving those that have hurt us does not condone the act, or make allowances for what was done. It removes the energy associated with it and allows us to heal.
It is for you, not them.
And sometimes you just have to fake it til you make it. I spent a long time forgiving myself and others, and although I believed in the process, it took a while.
But then the shift happened, and I no longer had that resentment and anger, and I was able to move on.
Forgive. Let live. And move on.
And don’t forget about yourself and all those things you hold against yourself.
For me, my deepest wound was personal.
Forgiving myself and accepting my past has been the most liberating and expansive part of my spiritual and emotional journey.
I remember the moment I felt true and complete forgiveness towards myself. There was an internal shift and I knew it was over.
Inner Child Work
Discovering and forming a relationship with my inner child was a major game-changer in my life and my healing process.
Your inner child holds all your secrets, all your fears, your hopes and your dreams.
They are the key to your happiness and the door to self-love.
They understand forgiveness, healing and love letting things go.
When you connect with your inner child, you connect with yourself, and magic happens.
As you connect and nurture your relationship with this very important aspect of yourself, you grow in self-love and understanding.
You are given great insight into situations and yourself, and as a result, are able to shift things that you thought were impossible.
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Not only do they understand it, they are so incredibly happy when you do. Their joy and relief of removing memories and energies that have been plaguing them is a true pleasure to watch.
They are the most important relationship you will ever have, and I don’t know what I would do without mine.
When you heal from the inside, with your inner child, when you nurture and grow this special relationship your life completely changes.
Find your tribe
Finding a spiritual community and having friends who are on the same path and who speak the same language has been so pivotal in my journey.
Being supported, held and cared for by others, especially others who are working on themselves, who are comfortable showing their struggles and helping you with yours.
Sharing your pain and stories, holding and being held, is a beautiful way to heal. We are creatures who crave intimacy and support, and no more so than when we are hurting.
And tribes can come in all shapes and forms. Now, with the amazing choices we have thanks to technology, we never need to be alone. We can connect and reach out so much more easily.
You don’t have to carry this forever.
If you’re ready to release what’s been weighing you down,
I’m here to guide you. Let’s take this journey together.
Book a healing session, join my meditations, or step into our community.
Your transformation starts now.”
Selene xx
