Letting go of past pain
Updated: Aug 26, 2018
I'm a big believer in letting go of your past. Letting go of things that are holding you back from happiness, joy and peace.
We are designed to heal. To grow and to evolve. Our past pain gives us great strength and wisdom and makes us who we are, but we are not meant to be bound to it. We are meant to learn from it, grow from it and then move on.
When we hold onto our pain we suffer again and again.
All the negative emotions hold us down, both energetically and emotionally, and keep us from moving forward. We go round in circles and get lost in it all, and it seems like we are never going to be free again.
We get stuck, and it gets really hard to move on.
We grip to the past, to the stories, and hold onto them because they are our stories, our wounds and they make us who we are.
And sometimes it's scary to let things go because no matter how difficult they are to carry, they are familiar. They have become part of us and we can't imagine life without them.
But when we hold onto our struggles and our pain we hold onto darkness. We weigh ourselves down and hold ourselves back.
And sometimes we have disassociated ourselves from the experience and the pain and have stuffed it so far deep inside we can pretend it's not there.
We pretend it's all OK. We busy ourselves with other things, we self medicate and find anyway we can to not feel and make it all go away.
But it never truly does.
However, when we are able to acknowledge our pain and let it go we are like the lotus that rises out of the muddy waters to spread its beauty in the world.
It can be hard to pull yourself out of the mud, to allow yourself to regain your beauty and happiness.
But it can be done.
I know because I have done it.
I have released the deepest pain and have become free.
Free from pain that haunted me for many years, pain that I thought I would carry with me always.
But that pain that is no longer part of my life. I am free
And this is how I did it. How you can do it. This is why I love what I do and feel honoured every time I help someone to free themselves from their pain and their past.
Energy healing focuses on your energy body, your chakras, your thoughts and beliefs.
Energy healing allows you to go deep within your subconscious and heal in places where you hold the heavies of all pain.
But it doesn't mean reliving he experience. It isn't necessary.
You just release the pain and suffering that is attached. And you truly let it go!
It also allows you to remove the dark heavy low vibrational energies associated with your pain so you can raise up into a new level of vibration.
It allows you to release pain in a way that I have not experienced in any other modality.
Like all forms of therapy and healing it is not a quick fix. There is no magic bullet. It's like peeling an onion, taking away the layers until you get to the core or the last remaining remnants.
But once you have, the energy and heaviness is no longer there.
You can think about the person, even or situation and it no longer has any power over you.
If there ever was a "magic bullet" this would be it.
This is a tough one, but when you are truly able to forgive, you will set yourself free.
Shame, blame, anger and resentment are all very low vibrational energies and when we hold onto them we keep ourselves anchored to these low vibrational states.
When we hold onto resentment and continue to blame and shame the people who have hurt us we end up hurting ourselves.
We need to let it go.
Holding onto it does not change the past, does not harm those that have wronged us, it only harms ourselves.
Forgiving those that have hurt us we does not condone the act or make allowances for what was done. It removes the energy associated with it and allows us to heal.
And sometimes you just have to fake it til you make it. I spent a long time forgiving myself and others, and although I believed in the process it took a while. But then the shift happened and I no longer had that resentment and anger and I was able to move on.
And move on.
And don't forget about yourself and all those things you hold against yourself.
For me my deepest wound was personal. Forgiving myself and accepting my past has been the most liberating and expansive part of my spiritual and emotional journey.
I will remember the moment I felt true and complete forgiveness towards myself for the rest of my life.
Inner Child Work
Discovering and forming a relationship with my inner child was a major game changer in my life and my healing process.
You inner child holds all your secrets, all you fears, your hopes and your dreams. They are the key to your happiness, and the door to self love and understanding.
When you connect with your inner child you connect with yourself and magic happens.
As you connect and nurture your relationship with this very important aspect of yourself, you grow in self love and understanding.
You are given great insight into situations and yourself, and as a result are able to shift things that you thought were impossible.
They understand forgiveness, healing and love letting things go.
They are the most important relationship you will ever have and I don't know what I would do without mine.
Healing in a group is so powerful. The collective energy of the group and the assistance of a facilitator can help to lift you beyond where you can go individually.
So much can lift and shift when a group comes together.
The guided healing meditations I go to and run are similar to energy healing but in a group. They are very active and require you to release energies and thoughts that hold your pain and past in place, allowing to to move forward and leave them in the past where they belong.
Find your tribe
Finding a spiritual community and having friends who are on the same path and who speak the same language has been so pivotal in my journey.
Being supported, held and cared for by others, especially others who are working on themselves, who are comfortable showing their struggles and helping you with yours.
As with everything we have a choice we can work through our issues or we can run from them, pretend they don't exist or that they don't bother us.
We can self medicate, make ourselves busy, fill our lives and our credit cards with temporary mechanism of avoidance only to be faced with them again.
But as we know running away doesn't solve anything. Our issues follow us and they knock on our door again and again begging us to deal with them.
There comes a time when the only way forward is to move forward and that means learning to stop looking back.
I wish you every blessing on your journey and hope that you find your freedom.